I have to admit I was little nervous about writing another post after my last post was such a big hit. I could not help but wonder, “Is this the best I will ever do? What now? How do I follow up with another great post?”
Maybe you have experienced similar feelings in your life. You might wonder if you will continue to get promoted in your job. Will you be able to reach your health goals?
The cynic in me can’t help but think of comedian Billy Crystal in City Slickers when he turns 40 and says,
“Ever reach a point in your life where you say, ‘This is the best I am ever going to look, the best I am ever going to feel, the best I am ever going to do…. and it ain’t that great’?”
I know. A little pathetic but there is some truth to it. We are all a little scared to fail. Did I mention I have a birthday coming up 😉 Ha Ha!
After having a mini panic attack I realized it does not matter if my next post is as big as the last. Just how it does not matter if you don’t lose 2 lbs this week. It does not matter if your boss did not notice the stellar work you did this week. What does matter is that you continue to go after your goals despite the ups and downs. Stay consistent. Here are four things that do matter when you are trying to attain your goals.
#1 Enjoy the Process
I know it sounds a little cliché to say “It’s about the journey, not the destination” but it couldn’t be closer to the truth. Take for instance your health. If you desire a healthier lifestyle and have specific goals in mind such as losing weight, what do you think will happen when you reach your goal? You are still going to have to continue the same habits you practiced to get there. You don’t just suddenly become healthy and that’s the end of it. It will require ongoing commitment to maintain your health.
With that being said, this is why it is so important to cultivate habits you can stick with that bring you joy. If you eliminate carbs completely, reach your goal weight, add carbs back in and then regain the weight plus some, was it really worth it? Find exercises you enjoy and recipes that taste good. Health is a journey, not a destination.
#2 Don’t Expect Instant Results
Success is not a linear process. Some days you’re up and some days your down. It is easy to get caught up in the end result and feel like your failing. I often find my clients relying on the scale to validate their healthy choices and lifestyle changes. But is this always a reliable strategy? Have you ever lost 2 lbs while you were eating like crap and not working out? What the…? Or have you ever eaten perfectly and gained weight? I know I have! Your motivation can’t always come from the number on the scale, just how my motivation to write cannot always come from how many “likes” I get. Hard work takes time to pay off and you are not going to see results on a daily basis. Just keep remembering why you started the journey in the first place.
#3 Learn From Your Mistakes
We all make mistakes. I know of at least one I have made in my life. Just kidding maybe two 😉 Each one of these mistakes is a learning opportunity. Going after your goals is an experimental process by discovering what does and doesn’t work for you. If you try to wake-up for the gym at five in the morning and it’s not working, then ask yourself why not? Is it too early? Are you going to bed early enough? Would it be helpful to get your gym clothes ready the night before? Just because something does not work the first time, does not mean you should give up on it. Look further into it…Why didn’t it work?
#4 Goals Can Change
We seldom think about changing a goal as an option. We believe, “I am a failure if I don’t reach my goal.” But this is not true! Goals can change…People change…You change. Maybe the goal you set two years ago is not what you want anymore and that is okay. I have met lots of people that thought they wanted to be a certain size weight such as 150 lbs, but once they reached 175 lbs they felt healthy and happy. The lifestyle they developed was one they could continue to stick with long-term and brought them joy. Yes, they could have upped the gym to 6 days a week and counted every morsel, but it was not a joyful experience for them. Goals are important because they help provide direction. But it is important not to forget why you started a goal in the first place. Accept yourself for who you are now, instead of continuing down a path that no longer ignites passion in you.
I am not expecting this post to be as big as the last and that is okay. I am using this post as opportunity to stay consistent and to chip away at the dream one day at a time 🙂
Until next time,
PS- This was totally supposed to be “5 Tips to Meet Your Goals” but guess what? My goals changed 😉